A support person can be a parent, spouse, friend, neighbor, classmate – basically anybody you can trust and who shows interest in helping you.
In too many cases your support person/s are hesitant or even afraid to provide the proper support you need. They are afraid of saying the wrong thing or doing the wrong thing that might – at least in their minds – make your OCD worse. They can’t be blamed for feeling this way because they just don’t get it – cause they just don’t got it!
In fact, your support person/s need support.
They need to see your doctor, therapist, social worker, or whichever professional you see who truly understands your issues and can explain and tell your support person/s exactly what to do and what not to do.
Your support person/s must be comfortable and feel positive toward helping you. They need the proper direction of when to help and what to do and what to stay clear of.
Many support persons don’t tell you that they are nervous, even though they truly want to help. A good therapist will be able to sit them down and explain OCD and your particular OCD issues, and counsel them to be a solid and helpful support for you.
It is vital that the support person knows what’s what and is totally comfortable with their role in your recovery program. When everyone is on the same page you will able to feel safer, healthier, more supported, and happier.
BEWARE of credentials……. There are far too many initials that can be found next to someone’s name today. Do you really know what they all mean?
They can mean different things for different people with the same letters. For example, ‘DR’ can mean a doctor of medicine, theology, a doctorate degree in astrology and more.
A majority of medical doctors do not know how to treat OCD nor conduct CBT correctly, an OCD patient can actually leave a medical professional worse off – whether that’s a doctor, psychiatrist, psychologist, physiotherapist, hypnotist, therapist or many others that think they understand OCD. They really don’t.
They understand about chemical imbalances and the like, but do they GET IT? Unless they have OCD they don’t get it. It’s impossible. This doesn’t make them inadequate, but you need to ensure the professional you turn to for help GETS OCD!
Too many patients are afraid to leave who they are seeing. If you see someone for a long period of time and nothing has changed for the good, GET ANOTHER ONE!
Don’t be afraid to go elsewhere. It’s your health!!!!!!
And don’t be afraid to ask the person you are seeing some test questions to see if they really do understand both OCD AND YOU. So don’t be afraid of who you are seeing and just be aware as to whether they GET OCD and GET YOU!
Also….Have you ever been seen by a therapist who has OCD? There aren’t many but they do exist. Check us out at OCD Canada – We Get It Cause We Got It.
My sense of humor and what I think is funny has bitten me in the arse
hundreds of times (in the event my partner reads this) thousands of times. I’m just trying to pre-qualify that I have never been confused with, or called, the fun police.
Seriously? An OCD quiz for amusement At the end of this quiz, you are greeted with your score – a percentage followed by “OCD Sensitive”. How about 0% OCD Sensitive? 100% OCD Insensitive?
Lest anyone parrot The Donald and think I’m being politically correct and need to lighten up — then how about ramping up some hilarious online quizzes to test your breast cancer radar or childhood leukemia radar? NOTE: for amusement only – not diagnostic!
Nope, that won’t happen. Mental illness, particularly OCD with all its bizarre manifestations, is too an easy punching bag while other diseases are (thankfully) are off-limits.
Society is moving toward more compassionate norms, e.g. most folks have moved on from racial and gay jokes. This happens when there’s enough peer pressure and folks wake the eff up and realize that instead of using humor to deal with their insecurities, exercising compassion helps everyone advance. At the very least, people can show their compassion by speaking up and out to Make It Awkward!
Rather than looking at shapes and colors and giggling about how we hang picture frames – how about moving toward compassion and learning more about OCD and what it does to those who have it and those who love them? If you live near Toronto, you’ve got just that chance on Tuesday, Oct. 25th as OCD Canada kicks off our expert speaker series at Carlton / Jarvis office. If you can’t make it or don’t live anywhere near Toronto – we’ll blog all about it and do interviews and encourage posts from those who attend.
Finally, in the spirit of candor, when Rick and I launched the OCD Canada website we joked about adding a refresh button that would allow a visitor to enter a number and refresh the site that number of times (counting rituals can take over your life if you have OCD). We didn’t do it – not just because not everyone would find it funny, but because it likely would be hurtful to some.